RIP my dear friend Wilson

I'm not quite sure how to write while filled with raw emotion.  My husband thought that it may be good therapy, a relief and a tribute to a man that was very dear to me.

For several years, my neighbor and I would talk over the fence that split our properties.  He was the older, wiser gentleman who loved to talk gardens, from seed to plate.  He would always have stories of friends gardens and his once incredible compost pile that the older ladies in the community would take buckets of for their gardens.  He would make fresh horseradish and give me a warm jar. We would experiment with new ways to grow plants, like our vertical potato boxes last year.  We would exchange seeds, plants and our harvest.  Our talks, over the fence line is why I called him Wilson.  His real name is Max. 

Max passed away today of lung cancer.

My heart is breaking but I know that Max will no longer be in pain.  This is a blessing that I must focus on. To the end he remained optimistic, even when it was too difficult to walk through our adjoining gate to give me seedlings of his favorite plants. He had a good soul, he loved our God, and knew that one day, he would be able to have the most magnificent garden in heaven.

Before he passed, Max gave me three varieties of his favorite tomato plants.  This simple gift will allow me to remember him each year that I plant the seeds of these plants.  From one gardener to another, I believe that he knew that I would cherish the seeds and the plants.  That I would always remember what his favorite tomato was. He knew.

Max, you will truly be missed.  You have blessed this family with just being able to know you.  Enjoy God's beautiful gardens.

Love your friend,
Ruth
4 Responses
  1. Dirt Lover Says:

    Oh, so hard. My best friend was just diagnosed with lung cancer, and it's soooooo scary. God, I hate cancer.
    I like that you called him Wilson. That's cool.
    ~~Lori


  2. Anonymous Says:

    Oh, Lori, I am sorry about your friend and I hope they caught it early enough! It isn't easy to watch someone you care about go through cancer and the treatment. Ruth

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  3. meemsnyc Says:

    I'm sorry to hear about the passing of your friend. My condolences.


  4. Anonymous Says:

    I still come back to read this entry. My Dad loved being your neighbor and now that it's planting time I'm sure you find your eyes wandering over to the fence expecting to see him just like we do. Thank you for your beautiful tribute to my Dad...it will always be so special to me! Love, "Wilson's" daughter


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